People in the Fiction World
The joy of life is not in what you have, but in the pursue of what you don’t have. Just read the novel “Anna Karenina” by the Russian writer Leo Tolstoy and you will see.
“Anna is the jewel of Saint Petersburg society until she leaves her husband for the handsome and charming military officer, Count Vronsky. By falling in love, they go beyond society’s external conditions of trivial adulterous dalliances. But when Vronsky’s love cools, Anna cannot bring herself to return to the husband she detests, even though he will not permit her to see their son until she does. Unable to return to a life she hates, she kills herself.” – From http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anna_Karenina.
Count Vronsky had a hard time when Anna was still with her husband. That was why the affair was so intense. But after she left her husband and ran away with him for good, for Count Vronsky, the agony of not having her was over and so was the joy of winning her over. And that was when his love for her ended.
I think this is the reason why there are so many unhappy marriages. People often show more affection when they need to do so to win the hearts of those who they pursue, especially when the competition is tense. When the pursue is over, however, there is less affection to smooth out relationships that get worse by the day because of increased conflicts of interests that result from close contacts.
By the way, I think Anna was too selfish. For her son’s sake, she should not have had the affair and should not have killed herself. I would say that her soul was empty. She only worried about her own happiness, not the happiness of her children, her husband, or even her lover.